Awakening To A Healed Moment Together

A healed moment can only occur between two or more. Unfortunately, such an idea has not been in vogue for quite some time and this is especially true in our modern times in which success is defined as attaining egoic individual goals.

Nevertheless, the healed moment has nothing to do with "love" and that would be a misunderstanding. If love is a conditional, self-construct originating from past learning, having no absolute or infinite aspects, how can it be counted on to heal? But then, what other kind of love is there?

In this world, “love” is conditioned on the learned preferences of the individual mind that determines the rules for getting and giving. This is why “all you need is love” has never been successful in reducing man’s inhumanity to man, even in the slightest, and most likely never will. Yet, we will still mouth the sentiments of "love," forgetting that those we once fervently claimed to love, have come to mean nothing to us now. So much for "love."

Nevertheless, This is what we have come to expect from love and little more, which is probably a good reason to trash the concept altogether. Relative concepts, that mean something different for everyone, most likely will never have any universal application. In fact, science is in the process of breaking love down into a series of conditioned responses originating in the nervous system and if science finally succeeds in convincing us they have finally defined “love,” I believe we are most certainly doomed.

Relative “love” is simply a game in which the rules demand I sacrifice to you, in order to reap the rewards of your sacrifice to me. If I meet your expectations for love, as you define it, you reward me by meeting mine. Not meeting your conditions indicts me as guilty and I will be punished by your withholding. The game ends the moment either one of us (or both) chooses to no longer follow the rules, since how can you play a game without following the rules. This method of exchange has been passed down for centuries and relative love serves merely as a form of currency between two business partners.

Yet, as history demonstrates conditional love never heals, but merely applies a temporary sedative to our symptoms of abandonment and alienation from the world, others and our ‘self.’ The problem is that healing is not symptom control, but a final cure and, until we see it as such, love will continue to mean relatively little and heal relatively few.

A healed moment is an absolute state of awakening or enlightenment and that’s why a healing moment is not a loving moment. Oh sure, your ego-self may make an interpretation of “love.” Yet, make no mistake, a moment between two or more minds experienced as healed, was a moment that “you” were nowhere to be found and neither was your silly definition of “love.” Of course, your body may have been present, but in that moment you were not aware of it (so was it actually there?) and this is often referred to as being in the present.

But keep in mind that the significant difference here is that it takes two (or more) to engage a healed moment and you can't be healed without healing. Yet, what individual ego could ever accept that as truth? Such is the world we experience...

Love without condition is free of the past and this means that in your healed moment there was no “you” to experience your concept of love based on your specific conditions and that’s the point of healing. When two or more come together without the past, then healing can take place, because conditions are always a product of the past.

The best way to initiate this experience is to let go of your egoic predictions as to what should, or should not, occur. Predicting "love" reinforces your inclination to impose a purpose upon another. Love is an experience of "enlightenment" that many come very close to, until eventually the egoic past floods the fertile plains and everything growing eventually dies.

Your ego-self is a product of the past and your past is the conditions you impose upon others in the present. To experience a healed moment is to be free of your conditions. You will find that by no longer preparing for your predictions as to what the conditions of love are, you will inadvertently be surprised by what fills the emptiness. A moment free of the “loving” demands imposed upon another is a healing moment that must be shared to be experienced.


My eyes with your vision
My choice but always your decision
My play with your direction
Well it's my lead but always your connection

My words, your expression
My land, always your possession
My song, your production
My expense is always your deduction

But when I look into your eyes you don't believe me
I can see it in your eyes you don't believe

And the face I see before me
Is both sides of a mirror
You really know you've got a hold on me

And the face you're looking into
Is both sides of a window
And any way you look you see through me

My fame, your reflection
My weakness always your protection
Well it's my terms on your conditions
And they're my tunes but they're your compositions

But when I look into your eyes you don't believe me
I can see it in your eyes you don't believe
(Allan Parson’s Project)

Hell Is Other People. But Then So Is Heaven

The ego is a disorganized complexity demanding order from its own manufactured chaos. Stress is a psychological fear response of an ego-self experiencing lack of control over the chaos it conjures up.

We certainly have little control over other people and this is a fearful and confounding prospect to an ego, which must always predict its actions based on the actions of others. Therefore, to an ego, hell is other people and hell is the foundation of fear.

Nevertheless, the greatest joy you experience result from engaging in a world of others. Hence, heaven is other people.

If you had little time left to live, your fear would not be loss of self, but the loss of a self as engaged with others. If you were the only existing 'self' in the world, death would result in minimal suffering and this is because it is others from which you receive your greatest joy and you fear that loss more than anything. Even joys that seem individually invented are magnified exponentially, when shared with others. Meaning is mutually defined and not solely developed by any one person.

The self is always constructed in reference to other selves and without others there could be no self-concept or “you.” However, in a dualistic world, that which brings intense joy must also be the foundation for fear. Fear has many symptoms, from mild nervousness to paralyzing panic. It can be so debilitating as to drive ones mood into a self-abnegating ‘nothingness’ referred to as depression. Fear can also manifest as anger and rage and many bright minds have theorized that, when enraged, even the most mild-mannered are only a thought away from the act of murder.

Of course, fear is also experienced as guilt, embarrassment, remorse, regret, etc, and these responses are grounded in the memory of past failed actions or inactions. In fact, some claim that the pressing burden of guilt alone keeps us locked in the past, seeking freedom. This is because the self is an invention of the past seeking to become free of what it believes constructed it. As a result, the past is your "Creator," not God.

Experiencing the stress of fear responses is directly related to other people and, thus, it is others that we seek periods of escape in order to mitigate or seek relief from fear responses. We believe that by reducing physical proximity to others, fear is mitigated.

By removing your body from me, you believe you are safe from psychological fear and this is because you believe you are more a body than a mind.

Let’s face it, if you’re alone with nature, you have no fear of judgment, whereas, with me, you may need to be vigilant to the contents of my mind which, although I may not directly disclose, you may feel forced to decipher my judgments and that can initiate psychological fear responses or stress. Therefore, it’s easy to understand why so many seek the sanctity of solitude and some seek it above all else making it the most sacred of relationships.

Seeking to sequester ones self-concept from other self-concepts may very well be absurd, since the self-concept is purely abstract and is not in any sense ‘real,’ other than what the mind invents. Yet, protecting your self-concept from “me,” certainly reinforces its reality for “you” and sometimes such conflict paradoxically makes us feel that the self-concept is “real” and that we are truly “alive.”

If only you could be free of my judgments, but then this will mean freeing me from your own, because my judgments are yours.

Judgment is nothing more than mutually superimposing a past upon one another and the greatest joy we can ever experience will be in sharing a moment free of the past.

The greatest suffering (hell) will be imposing a past upon one another in an attempt to control chaos and diminish our mutual hell.

Therefore, we are both heaven and hell to each other and any proverbial “awakening” must be mutually attained, otherwise individual enlightenment is nothing more than a figment of our collective imagination.